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Bored Housewives (Essays)

If my memory serves, that happens to be the name of a TV show which is currently running, but that's not what I want to talk about. What I want to talk about is the concept of the "bored housewife".

Perhaps the funniest thing about modern life is its speed; everything keeps changing faster than people can really adapt their opinions of life (people adapt quickly enough, but opinion always lag reality). Sometimes this manifests itself as a hearkening back to a time which never existed; people get partially caught up in the present but haven't come to like it yet, so they imagine that the past was different from the parts of the present that they haven't figured out, and want that. There is, of course, the obvious manifestation of simply not noticing that the world has changed. It's not just generals who are always fighting the last battle, not the current one.

And then there's a special way in which it manifests itself related to another odd human tendency. Specifically, many very bad ideas which have come along were really just ideas in advance of their time, which is to say, ideas which weren't workable when they were introduced but for whatever reason (probably technological), they are workable now. And as is not uncommon, people eventually found out that the ideas were bad ones, and now don't notice that the ideas aren't so bad any more.

In particular, throughout most of human life, not counting certain very rich people, most human beings were either a husband or a wife, and as either was very dependent on the other. There is an awful lot of work involved in keeping up human beings, especially when it comes to growing/getting food ingredients, cooking food, making clothing, etc. Less if you're a hunter/gatherer, more if you're a farmer, but there was still an awful lot to do and men and women tended to become partners (to say nothing of families sticking together to help each other out too). Then some time around the 1930s/1940s the lot traditionally falling to women dropped off drastically, and women (being human) began looking for other things to do. That there no longer were traditional gender roles wasn't much noticed, and so this revolution spawned a counter-revolution, which was the house-wife of the 1950s. That in turn spawned another revolution, which was called the "women's lib movement". This revolution was people finally noticing the present, though largely at the expense of the past — far too many feminists acted as if gender roles never had any sense behind them.

Now, one of the biggest issues that feminists had was one of the biggest problems with the 1950s idealized gender roles — there was nothing to do. Trying to be a traditional wife with new technology resulted in a lot of depressed women. It wasn't just that they had nothing to do, it was that they also were extremely isolated from other adults (in large part due to housing situations making socializing difficult). (It should probably be noted, at this point, that these problems were by no means universal, as people who couldn't afford the new technology didn't face them, and plenty of women also adapted to being quite social during the time technology freed them from the drudgery of work.)

Anyhow, it's recently occurred to me that The Internet will probably spawn another such revolution, as spending all day at home can actually be quite stimulating and enjoyable. The Internet puts a wealth of people, information, and activities at one's fingertips. Not to be overly blog-centric, but blogs are perhaps the best expression yet of what IRC and usenet started. People can be producers and consumers all day long without spending money in activities which can be time-shifted (with scheduled posting and reading at your own convenience) and interrupted at will. With child-raising being a time intensive task, it would not surprise me much if some reasonable number of men and women chose to stay at home and do it while their partner goes off to work. Providing that people will be able to con their partners into it, of course. I suspect that many will, though. Raising children is rather difficult and time-consuming work, at least for the first few years.

Posted by Chris on 08.12.2005